Why Do You Feel Stuck?
Shame is a painful feeling of humiliation, distress, regret and self-hate caused by the consciousness of doing something wrong. This emotion acts upon us secretly, manifesting in a variety of ways. It can be in the form of procrastination or defensiveness and can drain our energy, cripple our ability to take action and leave us unmotivated.
Our perception influences the way we see and interpret the world around us. We feel stuck when we think that things should be different than they are right now. By perceiving the quiet moments in our lives as “being stuck”, we undermine the value of the natural slow periods in our lives and guilt ourselves into doing more. Then when we do not accomplish those things we feel anxious and unfulfilled.
Not knowing your why or purpose in life can also generate the “stuck feeling”. Your purpose provides you with a goal, motivation and path to follow. It gets you up in the morning and creates a feeling of enthusiasm and satisfaction with your life.
Comparing yourself to others is another culprit to the feeling of being “stuck.” Looking at other people and their accomplishments can make you feel like your late to the game of life. You end up feeling like you are not doing much with the time that you have. However, everyone has their own path to walk, in their own timing. Remember you are only observing their results and not their journey and internal struggles.
How To Get Unstuck?
Self-reflection is a great place to start. By going inwards, into yourself, you can discover the underlying cause of your dissatisfaction. This will help you determine a course of action to alleviate that feeling of discontentment. But you have to be truthful with yourself.
Utilise the “Do Something Principle.” This principle is based on the inspiration, motivation, action model. It is a cyclic model so you can begin at any of these points to get back in motion. However, taking action is the easiest start point of the three to get moving and build momentum.
Reward yourself for small wins. You have to be compassionate with yourself during this time. Acknowledge each task completed, no matter how small. You will feel more accomplished and motivated to start and complete the following tasks.
Use a progressive system. Take it day by day, one step at a time and remember that a little progress each day adds up to big results.
Reduce friction to productivity by creating systems that simplify tasks.
Seek different experiences. We all get bored at performing the same tasks or looking at the same scenery every day. Shake things up by changing your environment and trying something new. It is a great way to get inspiration.
Get rid of the things that no longer work for you. Doing the same thing over and over will not give you a different result. Sometimes we get stuck doing something that someone recommended to us or we have done all our lives. We forget to pause and evaluate if that thing makes us feel good or if it is helping us reach our goal.
Find your purpose or passion and create habits to achieve your vision. Learn what makes you feel alive, what you can not resist helping others with, what moves you into action, and incorporate that into your life.
Change your mindset. Instead of perceiving this slow period in your life as unproductive or stagnant, take it as a sign to relax and give yourself some self-care. This is the time to get back in touch with areas of your life that have been neglected. Listen to uplifting music, paint, draw, garden, declutter and rearrange your space. Do whatever makes you feel good. It might be the key to unlocking your creativity.
Support from others. Remember that you can feel unstuck in one area of your life but inspired in another area. It is important to take some time and evaluate your life and gain some perspective. Try talking to someone else: a family member, friend, therapist or someone you trust.
I hope these insights and tips help you get out of your rut and back into your rhythm.
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